What Do Men Think About What Women Wear To Church

**** Written by a Christian Man*** Thank you to those who this does not apply to, spread the word on this culture/spiritual war.

Women...your Christian brothers are under attack. We constantly find ourselves in a daily non-stop bombardment of sexual images being shoved down our throats every where we turn. We are at war with a sex saturated lust loving culture in which we have no choice but to wearily navigate through. We are being beaten down by the relentless battle of wanting to please God through sexual purity in our bodies, minds, and hearts, while living in a world that tries to make that task virtually impossible. We are tired, weary, frustrated, and worn out, and we desperately need your help. That's right, your help. Please read though the following brief...and I truly mean brief...description of the daily bombardment that we your Christian brothers face, and consider how you may be hurting us and what you can change to help us.

Monday through Friday 9am-5pm
Driving down highways to and from work, billboards of scantily clad women in seductive positions flash in front of our faces trying to divert our attention from purity to lust. In the work place we are confronted with the reality of having to work in close proximity with short skirts, tight shirts, and low cut blouses, from co-workers clearly fighting for the label of "top model" in the office at the expense of our struggle with lust.

Monday through Friday 5pm-9pm
Helping our wives do the shopping at the local grocery store standing face to face in a check out isle with bikini's and practically topless women on the magazine covers trying to call our attention away from purity to lust. Taking part in the after school sporting events, PTA meetings, and community events our families are involved with and being greeted by females who aren't getting enough attention from men so they feel they need to expose themselves to us in an attempt to pull our attention away from purity to lust.

Monday through Friday 9pm-12am
Forget T.V. these days...even the news is no longer safe to watch; the commercials are borderline "soft porn". Even our television watching has become a wearisome event of holding the remote to constantly flip around channels during commercials to avoid the ever growing battle of Hollywood trying to draw us away from purity and toward lust.

Need I say more? Can you now see why men long for Sunday church? By Sunday morning we are exhausted, tired, and weary, discouraged, and down right frustrated. We long for one place, once a week where we can know that we are safe; safe from immodest images, immodest messages, and immodest women. Safe to "let our guard down" relax and take a deep breath. A place where we know those around us care deeply enough about our battle in this sex saturated culture that they desire help us. However, the sad truth is that church has now found itself on the list of places men can't go to escape the lure of half naked women. As despicable as this may sound, the church has become Rated "R" on some days.


Sunday morning worship used to be the safest place we go besides staying home. Ironic isn't it that we go to the "Sanctuary" for our corporate worship gatherings. Have you ever pondered the meaning of "Sanctuary"? Sanctuary is a place someone can go for safety, security, assistance, refuge, and shelter from the battle going on outside of the "Sanctuary". So why am I rambling on about this? Simple. The Sanctuary has now become the "Sexuary". What used to be the place where men could go to escape the onslaught of sexual images, and half naked women, has now become another battleground.

Please note...if you are sensitive do NOT read on, the following will be graphic. I am going to talk straight with you. Straight about the things men are being confronted with via the women in today's church, straight about the way men feel about this confrontation, and straight about the things men wish they could say to half naked women in the church on Sunday morning.

What I have personally seen in church in 2008 I get the privilege of being in many different kinds of churches in many different geographic regions. Why this is important here, is that I can testify that the problem of half naked women in church is not regional, it is not one particular kind of church, it is not even limited to one particular age group. So, with that in mind here we go with the list of things I have seen in the sanctuary on Sunday mornings:

• I have seen completely bare backs all the way down to the top of the rear-end
• I have seen fully exposed bra straps (not even spaghetti straps) I mean the actual bra on bare shoulders, I could even see the linking mechanism that holds the bra together in the middle of the back
• I have seen cleavage all the way down to the nipple area, with some exposed
• I have seen a swimsuit cover-up worn as a dress with NO bra on underneath with a V-neck several inches below the breast line
• I have seen short shorts so short to the point were you could see the crease where the upper legs met the rear-end
• I have seen skirts so short that in a sitting position you could see underwear
• I have seen halter tops with belly buttons exposed
• I have seen women wearing clothing with an excessive amount of lace and shear fabrics giving off the impression that they are going from church to a Victoria Secret lingerie party
• I have seen women sitting several rows in front of me where the back of the chair they were sitting in came above all their articles of clothing which gave the illusion that they were completely naked (bare shoulders and bare back).

I could go on. The point is simple. I am disgusted at fathers (who should know better because of the battle we as men face) who let there teenage daughters go to church in skimpy outfits that barely cover them. I am disgusted at husbands (who should also know better) who let there wives come to church publicly displaying their breasts for everyone to see. I am disgusted at women who willfully try to cause their brothers to stumble in an attempt to get attention they should not be looking for in the first place.

What men wish women would STOP wearing to church:
Women next time you get dressed for church please use the following checklist. If you are wearing one of the things listed below would you please have enough decency, and respect for us and CHANGE;
• Spaghetti Straps
• Strapless top
• Sun dress
• Mini-Skirt
• Short Shorts
• Tube top
• Low cut blouses / shirts
• Halter tops
• Lace, sheer & fabrics only belonging in a Victoria Secret catalogue
• Clothing so tight that it looks like you painted it on your skin

Believe me, men wish they could speak up about this issue, I know because I talk to many of them. We are afraid to speak up for fear of being labeled a lust filled scum bag. We are afraid that if we speak up everyone will think we were looking on with lust, so we simply keep our mouths shut. We are afraid of speaking out because of the cultural sensitivity towards sexual harassment, so we keep our mouths shut. We are afraid to speak up for fear of being labeled sexist and trying to “force" or control women by telling them what they can and cannot wear. Your Christian brothers are struggling, we are frustrated, and we are tired of suffering silently in a culture where women have lost decency and respect to the point where they feel comfortable parading around in front of men in attire that should be reserved for the bedroom with their husbands.

For the women who don't believe me, who think I am exaggerating, who think I am alone in this, I challenge you to begin Googling the topic. Go to men's blogsites, go to men's chat rooms, research the statistics, you will be shocked and horrified at the level of disgust men have toward immodest women in the church. Ironically the world wants you to believe that dressing immodestly will gain you the attention of men, and respect from other women, however the truth cannot be more opposite Though it may be a temptation to lust over your half naked body temporarily, we actually think negatively of you when you dress immodestly. Believe it or not Christian men are actually attracted to modestly dressed women far more often then immodest ones. Immodestly dressed women lose our respect and force us to think things about your character, which you would probably be offended by, should you truly know what we think of you.

Please prayerfully and carefully consider all that you just read and help your Christian brothers win the agonizing battle for sexual purity by showing up to church and church related events decently and modestly dressed. We will be grateful and God will be glorified.